There’s no realistic reason to read Yahoo! News. Yahoo! News is at the bottom of the barrel when it comes to news sites, and its writers (all offense intended) suck at not only WRITING–which is kinda’ important if you’re only going to come across through a written article–they also can’t report which, um, hate to break it to them, IS THEIR JOB. And I’m purposely overgeneralizing because I haven’t seen one writer who was actually worth reading. I mean, honestly people; do your job like it’s supposed to be done. I’d rather read a random North Korean news article on something that’s happening in the US than Yahoo! News.
Now that that’s out of the way, I came across an article a day or two ago about a new type of doll called Lammily whose creator has big dreams of supplanting Barbie as a household doll. Capitalizing, smartly, on the body movement of 2014-15, Nickolay Lamm has put out a girl’s toy doll that imitates the average American girl. It even has the stick-on options of stretch marks, birth marks, etc…and while she won’t fit any of the Barbie clothes you already have, she is a fair representation of what an actual teenager/early 20s woman looks like in America. It’s an awesome thought and product, and I really do hope it becomes popular.
But that’s still not the point of this post. If you go to the post and scroll down, you’ll see the comments. Most of them are (women) bashing on the idea of this doll, and the fact that we’re even going through a body-identity crisis, which I find as hilarious and stupid as people believing that global warming isn’t a threat and the Holocaust didn’t happen. There is a ton of bullying that’s been happening for decades, and fat-shaming is one of them.
Now, let me just say that there IS a limit between healthy chubby and unhealthy fat; I’m speaking about unfair bullying/shaming for the first one. If you’re overweight and it’s unhealthy, freaking do something about it. You don’t deserve to be part of the body-positive movement. For example, me. I’m 5’6 and 200 lbs…for a 23 year old female, that’s technically “obese”. HOWEVER, I don’t have any health issues because of it; I just might have to run the mile in ten minutes instead of four. And each doctor’s visit I make confirms my good health.
I am all about loving your body IF YOU’RE TAKING CARE OF IT. If it’s starting to shudder and stall and your blood pressure is too high, or your heart is strained, then you need to stop “loving yourself the way you are” and lose some freaking weight before you die young. All of this is besides the point too. I’m just trying to show you, dear reader, where I’m coming from when I tell you what happened in the Yahoo! comments the other day.
It takes a lot to get me fired up enough to waste my precious time voicing my opinion on the Internet, even on this blog, which is why I don’t post often. People I don’t care about at all are going to voice their opinions right back at me, and they’ll probably try to start a Net fight, and I don’t have time for that. I respect your view because that’s why makes humans great, but don’t be an asswipe and say something ridiculous to get a rise out of me. All I’ll do it shake my head, roll my eyes, and MAYBE post about you on my blog, like right now. And then you look like the rear end of a donkey. *claps* Yay you!
So I’m just scrolling through the comments, ignoring Yahoo!’s article as usual, and I start to get fired up for some reason, so I take the time to write the below comment. It’s still on there; my username is LoRen.
“Every woman on here who is bashing Lammily needs to stop. I LOVED my Barbies when I was a little girl and I actually got upset when my mother’s husband didn’t let my half-sister play with Bratz or Barbies when she got to the appropriate age, but now that I’m in my early twenties and I’m having to deal with my own body issues, I realized that if I had had Lammily to play with instead of Barbie, I wouldn’t have as bad of a problem with my body NOW. It’s true that as little girls we really don’t care, but when you get older and that ideal body has been ingrained in your mind for the last 10 years, it’s hard to suddenly love your ‘not-Barbie’ body.”
I was SO tempted to call all those bashers “insecure blonde morons who need to feel better about their own body so they immediately gang-rape anyone who dares to imply that maybe there are girls who are confident enough to stand up and demand a real doll.” But anyone who’s insecure, blonde, or an actual moron would be insulted, so I refrained. Plus, I didn’t want to sink to their level. It’s true though; I bet 90% of anyone who gangs up on a body-positive champion is either insecure themselves, or an asshole. And the other 10% are skinny girls.
But back to my comment. Of course the Barbies can’t be blamed for everything, and I’m not trying to do that. But I’d say around 40% of my issues came from them, and it would’ve been nice to have Lammily around as well as Barbies. The rest of my problems come from my own self, the media, and growing up around skinny girls all my life until I hit like, 20 or something. It also didn’t help that my mom had me on diets since I was nine. Anyways, I was waiting for trolls to pop up and sure enough, they did.
ladylove decided to question my intelligence as well as my parents capability. “funny, I had a barbie, and when I grew up, I knew Barbie was just a doll, and nothing, absolutely nothing else
I still have that doll, my parents were not rich, and I grew up knowing what it meant for them to buy it for me. that is what gives a person a good body image, not playing with a perfect doll, but having parents that did their best for you, and you growing up to appreciate it.
I have a great self esteem, and am proud of all I have accomplished.
the doll is not the problem, its people telling young girls what they should look like. ads, TV programs, magazines. and a whole lot of other things.”
She did get one thing right with blaming the media, but I can’t forgive her for blaming my family for basically 1) not caring about me and 2) being rich. My family wasn’t rich, let’s just say that now. I should also point out that at one point I had 30 Barbie dolls, including her babies, so maybe the amount of skinny dolls I had around me also effected me more than ladylove’s one.
And then Valentino decided to follow ladylove’s comment up with a one-two punch to both my self-control and lack of motivation. “Body issues girl just hit the gym and don’t eat the donuts is not that hard Jesus people are becoming so weak.”
Apparently mentioning God’s son gives your statement credit, I was unaware of this…I would also like to point out that I work out three times a week AND hate donuts, so thank you Valentino for your (un)inspiring suggestion, but that’s not the problem.
Basically my point was/is this: Lammily needs to get popular and stop getting bashed on because it’ll be healthy for non-skinny little girls like me as a child. Did I absolutely love my Barbies and get obsessed with them and not give them up until I was 19? Yes. Did I learn to exercise my imagination and become an awesome fiction writer because of playing with them? Yes. I just wish they had been bigger. I learned from an early age that Barbie’s pretty things weren’t able to be worn by a chubby girl/teen like me because of my hips and thighs.
Now I’m working on changing my attitude and trying to fall in love with my coke-bottle shape.